“Always be a first-rate version of yourself instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” - Judy Garland
Planning an ethical wedding or any kind of alternative wedding often means changing traditions that others are quite accustomed to. This means that you may meet some resistance from friends or relatives who think that you “can't do” whatever it is you want to do.
Maybe grandpa is uncomfortable with the fact that you're not getting married in the church that he attends. Maybe your mom can't accept the fact that you're opting for that bright blue wedding dress. Or maybe you have a controlling friend who insists that you buy a million flowers when you only want a few elegant tulips. Stay strong, and don't forget that this is in fact your wedding.
When my husband and I were planning our non-traditional wedding, we were often given two pieces of contradictory advice :
- This is your wedding so you get to do what you want to do.
- You absolutely can't do that!
Number 1 is true. Number 2 is definitely not! For some reason, many people feel that weddings are events where “etiquette” must be enforced and rules strictly followed. But if you're planning an ethical wedding or an alternative wedding, you know that sometimes rules need to be broken. If you want to have that super-fun non-traditional wedding with a reception room filled with 2,000 balloons, just do it. Don't let Aunt Susan tell you that you can't.
Click here to find some specific tips on how to deal with resistance to an alternative wedding.
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